THE BAGGAGE

I woke up this morning ready to write a new piece i have been working on,this came up and I ran with it. I hope it’s helpful….Ever felt like giving up or maybe you are going through a hard time  and you are asking yourself why, i hope the following will help. Its all a matter of choice;

#1. Stop worrying too much- been there done that but its not worth it. Worry will not strip tomorrows of its burden, it will only strip today of its joy.  (Matthew 6:25-34)

#2. Stop trying to buy happiness - Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that truly satisfy us, are totally free. Appreciate and make joy out of the small things around you

#3. Stop spending time with the wrong people. - Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they make an effort or room for you. You don’t have to fight for a spot or insist  yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. "take it from me Wachana Naye!!."

#4. Stop running from your problems. - thing is face them head on, yes it’s not easy and neither are we made to be problem solvers but its okay to get upset mad stumble and fall. What we can do is face the troubles, learn, adapt take chances, we are stronger than we know (i hope you’ve heard that before and i pray you hear it more until you believe it.)

#5. Stop trying to be someone else. - The greatest challenge we face is being ourselves especially in a world that is trying to make you look like everyone else. There will always be someone better ,prettier, smarter, stronger or even funnier than you but remain to your true self and they say the RIGHT people will love the real you.

#6. Stop holding to the past- i will be honest am a victim of this but it’s only when you close the last chapter of your life that’s when you can start the next one. You can’t receive a new cup if you still keep holding onto a broken one, chai itapoa mjamaa lol!!

#7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. - doing something and getting it wrong is more productive than doing nothing at all. Every success has a trail of failures behind it. If you don’t take risk, you will always work for someone who does.

#8. Stop scolding yourself for old mistakes.- we may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes you are here are Now with the power to shape your day and future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is to come. And if you love God - Roman8:28 for you.

#9. Stop  being idle- rather take action , be decisive and stop procrastination . Don’t overthink things you'll create a problem that weren’t there even in the first place...

#10. Stop thinking you’re not ready.-Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.

#11. Stop getting involved in relationships for wrong reasons.- relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than in bad company, don’t rush. If something is meant to be it will be in the right time, with the right person and for the best reason. (This reminds me of story I will share in my future posts)

#12. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old one didn’t work. - In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Yes some will test you, some will use and some will teach you. But most important some will bring out the best in you (listen to:  Love Won't Quit On Us by Mikeschair)

#13. Stop trying to compete against everyone else- Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own record every day. Success is a battle between You and YOURSELF only.

#14. Stop holding grudges- don’t live life with hate in your heart, you will end up hurting yourself more than the person or people you hate. I know its sound easier said than done but forgiveness is not saying “what you did to me is okay”, it is saying, “I am not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.

#15. Stop letting others bring you down to their level- Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Don’t give in to peer-pressure. Also don’t waste time trying to explain yourself to the world, your friends don’t need it and your enemies wont believe it anyway.

#16. Stop doing same things over and over without taking a break. The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you are doing over and over, you will keep getting the same results. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things in a clear angle.

#17.stop trying to make things perfect- the real world doesn’t reward perfectionist, it rewards people who get stuff done.

#18. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t- I know our traditions don’t allow especially for men to show emotions in public but it’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t have to pretend to be strong. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either:-Cry if you need to, yes men cry (scientist say it’s healthy to shed tears.) The sooner you do the sooner you will be able to smile again. (Listen to Strong Enough by Matthew West)

#19. Stop being ungrateful- no matter what happens good or bad, wake up each day thankful for your life at least. Someone somewhere is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you that have everyone else is missing.

#20. Stop looking down on others;- Yes things may be working out for you, you maybe gifted in areas more than one but never look down on anyone just because they are not up to your ‘standard’, you don’t know what tomorrow holds.

I hope this piece is helpful myself included even if not today, maybe tomorrow. Life is a choice. Peace